Goals are good, Goals are great, but sometimes, setting goals needs to wait.
Now, STOP setting New Years Goals...
you're doing it wrong...
Hey, If you're happy with all your past outcomes, please, stop reading now, put this down, and pick up pen & paper or your keyboarded device and get busy helping the world to be a better, brighter place by sharing all your success secrets.
💥If you've got the whole, Personal-change-game 100% down "pat", then please... pass it on to the rest of the world.💥
What's that? No, you're NOT the person with the perfect track record.
Join the club, me neither, and Nobody that I know, is...
But a while back I found myself face down on life's floor, and when I flopped over and looked up, what I saw wasn't what was holding me down there, but what kept sending me there...
and would do so again, unless I changed how I did life, Big-Time!
I couldn't keep trying the same old things the same old way.
Sometimes the worst advice we can seek & accept is that which comes from experts. Especially when it seems like ALL the experts are saying the same thing, re-canned and re-hashed, over & over again, but for some reason, that same thing seems to fall short for us... over and over again.
So this year, if you wannna' bring about change and you've struggled in the past making it "stick", then maybe it's time to tell those experts and their so-called "S.M.A.R.T." goals, to go "stick" 'em... 'cuz if it don't work for you, SMART goals, are just dumb.
You've probably heard about the SMART Goal format; make sure your goals are S.M.A.R.T.= Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relative (to You) and Time specific. Sounds like a "Smart" plan, right?
Well then, I'm sure they have a great success rate... right?
But if they do, then why are people who've heard about this format for all these years, still struggling with change, improvement and empowerment, after all these years.
There have been a countless number of Great, Smart Business plans over the years... have they ALL succeeded?
NO... of course not, and I'll bet, more of them have failed than flown.
And countless invention ideas have been introduced to the marketplace as Smart, Exciting improvements to our world. Have they overwhelmingly succeeded? No, of course not. Were they Smart ideas? Certainly many were. So why did they fail? Was it just dumb luck?
NO..., thinking it was any kind of "luck" would be dumb.
It's less about the Goals and Plans, and more about the Planner and Goal-setter.
I'm not saying "they" were the wrong People to succeed, but likely, they were just ordinary people like you and I, doing the good things, but at the wrong time, in the wrong order, and THAT error in judgement, made them the wrong person, at THAT time.
I'm not saying it's a problem to HAVE Goals; Goals are good, goals are great. The problem is if you're setting those goals at the wrong time, in the wrong order, before You ARE the person where the "who you are" and the "what you want", line-up.
No Way, No Plan, No Approach, NO matter how "SMART" it seems, will provide lasting & sustainable results for any of us, if we can't see ourselves in life's mirror as being capable and qualified to sustain them. It's not the magic plan, nor the power of planning, it's the basics of becoming... become the person we believe will succeed, before we believe blindly in a plan for success.
💥We've gotta' prove it to us, and for us, FIRST!
...It's not the plan that makes the Man (Woman).💥
So this New Year, do it a New way, a different way that's designed to prove to you and the world that the "smart-est" goals are the ones chosen to fit the individual that you are, and you KNOW you can sustain their results, and not follow a generic path spewed out by a generic expert.
To succeed this year, Learn how to spell out your personal Change with "5-F's"...,
and NOT needing to have a single "A".
Complicating things Sucks!
We need a simple structure or system to follow if our resolutions are going to last into Next Year, hell, next month or even beyond next week (I'm working on one now that I 100% KNOW I will want to throw in the towel on before next weekend, so I set up a system of checks, balances and bite-sized steps to get me thru & beyond my own short-sightedness... but I digress. Now, back to our regularly scheduled blog about needing 5-F's and No A's in change).
For change to last, it has to feel like it fits, like it was always supposed to be this way, but we just hadn't found it's foundation...yet! Simple, right?!?
Following the approach of The "5 F's" (or really, 5-F-Words) is so essential, that when taken IN ORDER, they become our reliable foundation. Notice what I said; IN ORDER !
The 5 F-Words (which YES, I am about to share with you...Parental Guidance suggested) will make You a Master of Change, with a simple stair-step approach you can ALWAYS fall back on (because we ALWAYS face times we may fall back).
The reason for these 5-F's, is that they apply to ALL of us, Universally, and because we don't need to get or give ourselves an "A-Grade" in order to rely on them, we just need to believe that we "know the course material" well enough to apply it, on demand, in the real world.
So, No Perfect "A-Grade-performance" is required to spell-out C-H-A-N-G-E. (Hence the "No A's required) -
Just these 5-F's...
...and yes, You Must endure the first four before you can really enjoy #5 !
(I have some friends & family members who've balked hardcore at this, only to eventually admit they had to "employ" the first 4 to "enjoy" the last 1... read on to learn why)
This order makes tackling the unknown not so intimidating, and less reliant on some sort of "will-power", and more managed by your innate power, with what feels more like the perfectly, programmed, auto-pilot...
The great thing about accepting that FUEL is our foundation, is that we don't have to control it 100% of the time, BUT, (and that's a Big-But) it is the ONLY F-Word you DO have "Solo-Control" over, 100% of the time! Whether you feel it or not, You & ONLY You control what goes into you, and what you feel about that doesn't change that fact... feelings, are not facts, my friend, and that's a fact you can feel good enough about to base and build any and all change on.
So, FUEL must be our First Priority, but the next step is to prioritize what you do with that Fuel, and that is through FITNESS.
I've been a trainer over 35 years, and I've NEVER met the athlete who can bring about any outstanding outcome they wanted, with just any old "feed my face" approach. If you wanna build it, ya gotta feed it, then focus that "all-fueled-up" and ready to go gear of yours at your goals.
Followed in this order, We now have a reliable foundation that supports Health, Energy, Drive and Adventure.
Like Life itself, It's that simple... didn't say it was easy, just simple.
Now we've taken Fuel-steps & Fit-steps on our trek to the top, we should be feeling a “little” better about ourselves (hopefully, a LOT better). You know what happens next... right? Everything will just FANTASTICALLY fall right into place, and the Universe will grant your every Freakin' Wish, right?
(That aint’ what happens in MY Reality!)
Nope, NOW is when Life will test you, and try to trip you up. Always has, always will, and it seems to be, in just about "all ways possible."
So gather yourself, and your newly realized “Fuel & Fitness Command in the palm of My Hands” approach, collect some Confidence, Courage and Commitment to Clearly define what you are willing to FIGHT for… 'cuz Cupcake, you are gunna’ be tested.
One man's opposition is another man's opportunity.
If on occasion, you don't find yourself running head to head against the Devil himself, perhaps, it's because you're BOTH headed in the same direction...hmmmm?!?
See, this is where most folks mess up and get clobbered trying to do big important things, from big important wish-lists, in the wrong order. If you don't know your FIGHT before you plan your FUTURE (the next F-Word) , you puttin' the cart before the horse, as my Great-Grandma used to say...and she crossed the country in a buckboard wagon, so she knew first-hand!
Know the FIGHT you have in You, and the "Why" of what you're fighting for, before you go pick another fight (Goals/FUTURE).
Train and trust your resilience before you throw yourself head first against/into the new resistance.
FUEL empowers you, FITNESS Improves you, and your FIGHT will Inspire you to see yourself through... beyond the end of next week, like I said earlier about myself.
Know what you stand for when you get outta' bed everyday, so when you fall, and you will, you'll stand back up because of it… every time.
Now, you're ready to venture into Tomorrow-Land... The Future is where your Goals will deliver you and you will be their driver.
Tomorrow is coming, you can't control it, or completely contain it, and trying to "class-it-up" by convincing yourself that "everything's just gunna turn out OK", could be about as effective as "painting pin-stripes on The Titanic"; might look better, but still useless.
NOW is when S.M.A.R.T. goals are The SMART way to go, because ' proven to yourself that you're smart enuff to be entrusted with goals and going after them.
So what do You Plan for your FUTURE to look like?!?
Your Future Physically, Mentally, Geographically, Fiscally and Satisfactorily. ..?!?
What are YOUR Goals for "You"?
Goals are good... Goals are great... Now, Let's go get 'em, I can't wait!
To be honest, this, is NOT, my strong-event, so I went straight to the source; that wonderful Italian Wife of mine, for some input and insight, which, I gotta' tell ya', was Very Much To The "Point & Bottom Line", as she calls it.
She told me “I don’t know; I just like to laugh, make people happy, see the ones I care about having fun.” My Wife, for lack of a verbose descript (see what I did there), has FUN in life, like a child. Fun almost ALWAYS comes first for her consciousness, and at our Age, (combined ages WELL over 100... She hates when I mention that)maybe that perspective on Fun’s a good thing.
See, you’ve just done all the “adult” things to lay out your path to progress... FUEL? FIT? FIGHT? Planned your FUTURE?
You’ve done the heavy lifting, and built one Bad-Ass-Beast of a behavioral War-chest you can trust yourself with...
Saving FUN for last in all of this, is less about discipline and more about common sense, ‘cuz now, you’re the best version of YOU, to have the best FUN you can.
FUN, is a function of a Life, lived "in the moment".
-But sometimes... well, sometimes FUN is harder to find, amidst what seems like the uncertain Grind of the Day-to-Day.
- Well if, occasionally, all else fails within your FUN-Zone, you can comfortably step back and focus on your FUTURE; a future to have FUN again… we've ALL had to do that, after 2020... it’s a thing called “Hope.”
- And If your FUTURE looks blurry, it's time to Focus on the FIGHT to know & show that you are strong enough to build a tomorrow You can enjoy and have new, different FUN… you did it before, that’s the proof necessary you can again.
-If your FIGHT ever feels faded, well, take a break, take a walk, workout, breathe... become energized and stronger to renew your energetic FIGHT for that FUTURE, & FUN. (can you see where this whole process is going?)
-Best yet, if you're laid up, and can’t workout, then nurture yourself with the FUEL that heals and helps bring real health... back to your basics... Back to where you started...FUEL yourself, don't fool yourself.
It’s always good to know you can go home again.
Next up; The Basics of FUEL that will change your LIFE in less than a month!